The Drama Triangle Explained - Leadership Tribe US

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The Drama Triangle was first described by Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. It is a model of dysfunctional social interactions and illustrates a power game that ... TheDramaTriangleExplainedbykrishna|Dec4,2020|LeadershipTribeTheDramaTrianglewasfirstdescribedbyStephenKarpmaninthe1960s.Itisamodelofdysfunctionalsocialinteractionsandillustratesapowergamethatinvolvesthreeroles:Victim,Rescuer,andPersecutor,eachrolerepresentsacommonandineffectiveresponsetoconflict.  Thejourneyaroundthetrianglecanbedonewithselforanother,suchasaspouse,child,co-worker,andsoon.Mostofusareneurologicallyprogrammedtoplaythesethreeroles,andweconsciouslyorunconsciouslychooseonerolegiventheparticularcontext. FromAgileTrainingtoScrumTraining,OrganisationalCoaching&LeadershipCoaching,FindouthowLeadershipTribecanworkwithyourteam.TheThreeRolesExplained IntheDramaTriangle,eachplayerintheparticularmindgamebeginsbyassumingoneofthethreetypicalroles: Victim–“Poorme.”Victimsoftenfeelvictimised,trapped,helplessandhopeless.Theythinktheyareatthemercyoflife.Theyareunwillingtotakeresponsibilityfortheirundesirablecircumstancesanddon’tthinktheyhavethepowertochangetheirlives.  VictimsassumethemselvesaspowerlessorincompetentandblameonPersecutors(canbeotherpeopleoraparticularsituation).TheyalwaysseekforRescuerstosolvetheproblemforthem.IftheVictimscontinuetostayinthe‘dejected’stance,itwillpreventthemfrommakingdecisions,solvingproblems,changingthecurrentstate,orsensinganysatisfactionorachievement. Rescuer–“Letmehelpyou.” RescuersconstantlyinterveneonbehalfoftheVictimsandtrytosaveVictimsfromperceivedharm.Theyfeelguiltyofstandingbyand‘watchingpeopledrown’.  Rescuersmayhaveallthegoodintentionandstriveto‘help’otherpeopleastheyseenecessary.Theyfailtorealisethatbyofferingshort-termfixestoVictims,theykeepVictimsdependentandneglecttheirownneeds.ThisiswhyRescuersoftenfindthemselvespressured,tired,andmaynothavetimetofinishtheirowntasks,astheyarebusyfire-fightingfortheVictimsastheyarise! Persecutor–“It’sallyourfault.” Persecutorsarelike‘CriticalParents’whoarestrictandfirmandsetboundaries.Theytendtothinkthattheymustwinatanycost.  PersecutorsblametheVictimsandcriticizethebehaviourofRescuers,withoutprovidingappropriateguidance,assistanceorasolutiontotheproblem.Theyarecriticalandgoodatfindingfault,andcontrolwithorderandrigidity.TheykeeptheVictimsoppressedandsometimescanbeabully. AreyouaVictim,Rescuer,orPersecutor? NowyouareawareoftheDramaTriangleandtherolesinthetriangularsetting.Soareyouavictim,arescuer,orapersecutor?  Ifyou’rehuman,chancesareyoumayseeyourselforbeseenbyothers,asallthreeindifferentscenarios. ItisimportanttopointoutthattheplayersintheDramaTrianglemayswitchrolesduringamindgame,andifanyoneinthistrianglechangesroles,theothertworoleschangeaswell. Example BelowisafictitiousexamplewhichdemonstratestheDramaTriangleinmotionandthewayplayersmovefromoneroleofthetriangletoanother.  Mark: Alex,theProgrammeStatusReportisdueatnoontoday.Couldyoupleasesenditovertomeassoonaspossible?(P) Alex: Doh!Ihaven’tdoneityet,Iwasn’tsurewhatisrequired,andIhavebeenoverwhelmedwiththeotherprioritiesformyprogramme.(V) Mark: Therequestandreporttemplateweresenttoyoulastweek.Ifyouwerenotsureabouttherequirement,whydidn’tyouask?(P) Alex: Iwasoverwhelmedanddidn’thavethecapacity.(V) Mark: Itisalready10amnow,canyoupullsomethingupforyourprogrammequickly?(P) Kate: Mark,whatinformationdoyouneedfromourprogramme?(R) Mark: Thestandard–programmeRAGstatus,programmehighlights,keyrisksandissues,milestonesanddependencies.(R) Kate: Weproducequiteafewprogrammereportsfortheportfolioalready.Can’tyoujusttweaktheinformationtogetwhatyouneed?(P) Mark: DoyouknowhowmanyprogrammeupdatesIhavetocollatefortheportfolioupdates?(V) Alex: Honestly,Ithinkthestatusreportisanoverkill!(P) Kate: Nevermind,givemehalfanhour.Iwillupdatethestatusreportandsenditover.(R)  Andtheconversationcangoonindefinitely,soarethechancesoftheroles. EscapetheDramaTriangle Aspertheexampleabove,whilstthetriangularroleplaymaynotbeallbad,itcanleadtofrictionandconflictsanddetrimentalforpeopleinvolved.  Inmy nextblog,Iamgoingtodiscussbrieflyhowwecan escapetheDramaTriangle. Learnmoreaboutself-awareness,emotionalintelligence,creatingpsychologicalsafety,askingpowerfulquestions,andprofessionalcoachingskillsinourICAgileCertifiedAgileCoachingonlinecourse. CategoriesAgileCoachingAgileMethodologyAgileTrainingLeadershipAndManagementLeadershipTribeScrumTrainingRecentPostsOrganizationalBarrierstoChangeDevelopingEffectiveConflictManagementSkillsforImprovedTeamPerformanceWhatMakesaGoodTeamLeader?ManagingTeamConflictAskingPowerfulQuestionsinsteadofGivingtheansweraway!DownloadOurICP-APOBrochure Getalloftheessentialdetailsaboutourcoursedeliveredtoyourinbox!psst....lookoutforthediscountcodeatthebottomoftheemail!GetBrochureYourDocumentIsOnitsWay(CheckyourJunkMailFolder,justincase)Bysupplyingyourdetailsyourconsenttoourprivacypolicy.DownloadOurICP-LEABrochure Getalloftheessentialdetailsaboutourcoursedeliveredtoyourinbox!psst....lookoutforthediscountcodeatthebottomoftheemail!GetBrochureYourDocumentIsOnitsWay(CheckyourJunkMailFolder,justincase)Bysupplyingyourdetailsyourconsenttoourprivacypolicy.DownloadOurICP-ATFBrochure Getalloftheessentialdeta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